If you are on the street, all you need to do is turn either to the right or to the left. If you are on the bus or a public transport of some sort, all you need to do is look out the window. If you are in the house, all you need to do is turn on your TV or access the internet. You’ll see the same thing; you’ll be inundated with sexual imagery and sex appeal. Nothing sells today more than sex. As soon as the season changes and summer rolls in, people ditch common sense and roam the streets in as little clothes as possible.
Truth be told, it has never been more difficult to be sexually pure than it is today. Young people, old people, married and singles, all seem to struggle with remaining faithful to God in this area. But you see, the worsening standards of society does not change God’s everlasting standards. In fact, God’s word says to “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body” 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT). The Greek word translated sexual sin is ‘pornea‘. It is an umbrella term for every kind of sexual relations outside marriage. It includes but not limited to fornication, adultery, use of erotic materials (books, audiovisuals), homosexuality, etc.
As usual, God thinks ahead of time and provides solutions. In 1 Corinthians 7:1,2, the Bible says “Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good to abstain from sexual relations. But because there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife,and each woman her own husband.”
One of the reasons God created the marriage institution was to guard against sexual immorality. It is not being married that prevents sexual immorality, it is being committed to fulfilling your marriage vows that do. So for starters:
- Husbands and Wives should ensure they satisfy the sexual needs of their spouses. Do not defraud one another. Do not punish one another by withholding sexual intimacy. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
- Mr Single brother and Miss Single Sister, stop playing boyfriend and girlfriend for eternity. It is better to marry than to burn with lust. The Bible says if you cannot hold yourself, then get married instead of living in sin. God does not play dice, so stop play acting. Stop cohabiting. Stop trial marriages. If you find it difficult to control your passions, the godly counsel is to get married. “But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion” 1 Corinthians 7:9.
- Mr Married man, Mr Single brother, stop looking at women as sex object. Remember the Bible did not say every man should have a woman, It says every man should have his own wife.
- Miss Spinster, Mrs married woman, do not throw your pearls to swines. Stop treating your body as a shopping centre where every Tom, Dick, Harry and Tunde can shop. Remember every woman should have her own husband.